Your divorce is both a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because it is a chance to start anew. It is a curse because you have to divide everything accumulated during the marriage. This includes everything from property to children.
As you go through your divorce proceedings, you have to ensure that you aren't letting your ex railroad you into agreeing to things that you don't find agreeable. You have to be willing to negotiate but you don't have to just agree to whatever your ex says.
When you are going through child custody matters, you have to put the children first. As tempting as it might be to use this part of the divorce as a way to get back at your ex, you shouldn't do that because it could cause your children to suffer. Instead, you should do what you can to ensure that your ex gets to have a relationship with the children.
The property division process is complicated, especially if you have considerable assets. You have to think about how various property division arrangements might impact your life today. You also have to take a realistic look at how the various arrangements might impact your finances and your life in the future.
Ultimately, there will have to be some compromise when you and your ex are trying to work out an agreement. Make sure that you think about what points you are going to stand firm on and which ones are negotiable. This is a good starting point for us to start working out the terms of the divorce.